So, I'm here with some Rogue Yogi Real-Talk. I wanted to share a pretty serious topic just because I think that the current lessons that I'm learning about my personal life experiences (without getting into any specifics or name any people in particular) that the lessons could be pretty valuable to what you guys may be going through. I thought that if I share it with you that it would solidify that I'm really learning the lesson, and that I can communicate this in a way to inspire you to take a simple action, to treasure your life, to appreciate your time while you're alive, and to waste NO time indulging in the things that don't serve you or help you become a better person. So, let me just get right down to it. I've been interacting with a specific person with the same pattern. There's communication on Facebook, text message or email. Just anything electronic that is not voice-to-voice (in person or on the phone). Usually, this person wants to express what they're feeling, and it comes out as if it's the truth. That I'm doing something, that I'm believing something. The pattern continues in that, I try to clarify or fix the misunderstanding and at the same time express how I'm feeling about the situation and it NEVER goes well. Because in this person's world, they hear something and they get super emotional, then this person states things with negative and angry energy directed right at me. When I ask this person to get on the phone, to speak face-to-face, anything other than electronically, this person gets more defensive, then sends more negative energy and it results in me shutting down and just not say anything, because I'm angry myself, Maybe I've absorbed this person's energy, or have given up not knowing what to do, or say something pretty pissed off myself and it's just not productive. Usually within 24 hours later, this person will have calmed down, and ask questions about the conversation we've had the day before.
While I love this person very much and want this person to thrive and succeed (I wish I could part the clouds for this person), at some point this kind of communication with negativity and misunderstanding and unwillingness to see things from a birds' eye view and possibly a combination of us not communicating the same way, it gets to a point when it starts to compete with the big things I'm up to. You don't have to be up to big things, you don't have to be up to small things but if you want to live a peaceful life no matter how you live your life. This takes away from that energy, in my opinion. At some point, I have to make a decision to stop this pattern from continuing. To maintain peace in my life. To come from love and understand there's probably some issues this person is going through, but that it's not my responsibility and I do not have any power to fix their insecurities, selfishness and possessiveness.
I thought about how short life is. I thought about how there's not much time left on this planet. Life's really short. With me trying to grow the Rogue Yogi mission: to provide yoga and make it accessible to the planet so that you can lead a peaceful life.
It's kind of the opposite if I keep engaging in this energy that begets more negativity, more frustration. I want to be as consistent as possible with promoting a peaceful lifestyle and resolving things in a peaceful manner, and interacting with some people who are not exerting that, who are not moving the relationship/friendship forward, who are not supportive, who are coming from a scarcity mindset. At some point, in wanting this pattern to stop...you gotta make a decision to choose who you spend your time with, and what situations you spend your time with. Some of you might be going through some things where you want things to be a certain way, and it's not. It is what it is, it may not feel good. It may feel really shitty honestly. While you go through the feels, while you go through the motion and feel the impact of someone or something.
Ask yourself: Is this person moving you forward. Do you move them forward? Do you support each other? Do you make each other's time worth while?
There are some people who just don't move you forward. Some are negative. Some are stuck in a certain pattern. You don't have to have a full on argument, or make it dramatic. You can simply walk away from this person peacefully with peace of mind.
While it may be lonely to let go of energies, or situations or people, you're actually creating space in your mind, your life.. for other people to show up in your life. To have more loving, warm and rich relationships with people. You only got 24 hours in a day, and you don't know when you're gonna go. Honestly.
As I'm learning this lesson, and as i found a way to let this energy dissipate and come to the conclusion that I need to walk from this situation, maintain my peace, respect my space and love this person from afar..
We just found out about 30 minutes ago that my husband's friend Sebastien just passed away. I didn't know him very well, but every time we would run into him or come to his parties...he was very driven and focused. He would always scan the room. He was on the hustle, very clear. He was such a staple and a solid foundation in producing the SF party scene for such a long time.
As someone that produces events, not parties but basically Yoga Party events, I recognized and saw that in him. It's sad to hear that he's gone. It's just another reminder: Julie, you could go at any moment. People could go at any moment. Are you spending your time wisely? Are you fulfilling on what you set out to do.
It's just very clear. Just very, very clear.
My message to you guys is, take a look at your situation and where you're at right now. Get very real. Take a look at the closest people in your life. Are you lifting each other up or dragging each other down? Are you in a situation that you don't feel healthy in or are you doing things that make you feel good, for your mind, body and spirit. Things that make your heart sing.
It may not happen overnight, but when you get the courage to trust that you deserve the best and you deserve good energy and positivity, and you deserve new energy that really serves you now, and let go of the old energy that doesn't serve you anymore, that you have the courage to walk and to do it with peace and with self-respect for you and for everyone involved.
I don't spend much time sharing about myself. I share about food and practicing yoga.
Speaking of yoga, I'll bring up a really good story. I went to a birthday event this past weekend and got to know some great friends. This girl was practicing everyday. Meditating for 5 minutes a day and doing 3 sun salutations everyday. I used to practice everyday before teaching my students.
She learned this tip from someone from Google that wrote a book and turned to ask me "do you practice yoga everyday?"
Honestly, I was, but up to this point I wasn't. It's this thing that happens. You get distracted by your hustle. It's ironic because if your hustle is what you're trying to teach other people, you're not really teaching. You're talking at people. It's not authentic, it's not real. So, I felt the itch to practice again, to take a few minutes for myself. There's not much time but at least take 5 minutes to take care of ourselves first
I will practice meditation for at least 5 minutes and do 3 sun salutations each morning. If you'd like to do this with me, Periscope will be the best avenue to share this.
Let's aim for Monday through Friday. If we can do this at 6am before I teach my 6:30am class for the next 21 days. If that's too early for you, the Periscope will be available for 24 hours. Let's do that.
Thanks for reading this, hope this helps you in some form. Treasure life. You don't know how much time you got left. Spend it wisely.